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Reading recommendations: 16 books I enjoyed in 2016

17/12/2016 by Charlotte Leave a Comment

img_7737I’ve upped my game reading wise. I quit flicking through the Metro on the way to work some time ago and replaced it with books. Not my phone or my iPad or some other device I already spend too much time with, but books.

Last Christmas my brother told me that he keeps a list of everything he reads each year and I thought I’d steal the idea and then write about it. So here it is – 16 books I enjoyed in 2016. And I’d recommend every single one of them.

1. So You’ve Been Publicly Shamed – by Jon Ronson

If you spend as much time on Twitter as I do (and I hope for your sake that you don’t), you’ll find this book particularly fascinating. It’s all about people who have made a mistake – be it on social media or at work – and then been publicly taken down, and their lives changed forever. It’s a pretty scary look at the power of the angry mob that’s ready and waiting to shame anybody who makes an ill-advised comment online. I’ve certainly tweeted more cautiously since reading this book…

I devoured my first read of 2016 and recommend it strongly.

the psychopath test - jon ronson2. The Psychopath Test – by Jon Ronson

Yes, ever since I read this I’ve been wandering around believing I have the ability to identify who is and is not a psychopath. I don’t, of course, but I understand it’s an inevitable side effect. I really like Jon Ronson’s investigative approach to writing – a bit like Louis Theroux on paper. I’m really interested in mental health and how our psyche works and, again, sped through this as it was so interesting. It also made me laugh lots too, which, when the main subject matter is psychopaths, is no small achievement.

Bonus recommendation: Another thing I’ve really enjoyed this year is Adam Buxton’s podcast (no we’re not related, although I’m amazed how many people ask me if we are) and his chat with Jon Ronson is one of my favourites.

3. We Should All Be Feminists – by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie

“Every 16-year-old in Sweden is being given a copy of this book, so you should own it too” – that’s what my younger brother wrote on the gift tag attached to this book when he gave it to me last Christmas. Because he’s a good present buyer AND a feminist. (Yes, you can be both). This book is an essay adapted from Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie’s TED talk of the same name. I read it and then I watched it too because it moved me so much that I wanted to hear it all again. It’s only 52 pages long so takes up only a small but crucial space on your bookshelf.

img_77204. Bad Feminist – by Roxane Gay

As you’ve probably noticed, I’m a big fan of non-fiction. My love of it began a couple of years ago when I read Bossy Pants by Tina Fey and has grown and grown ever since. This collection of essays by Roxane Gay is about what it means to be a woman and the range of contradictions involved with her (and all of our) experiences of being a feminist. I loved it because it’s brilliant but also because it made me want to be a better writer – these essays are just SO good. She changed the way I think about politics, culture, race, female friendship (and particularly the film ‘The Help’) whilst making me laugh, cry and want to throw things all at once. Perhaps read this whilst surrounded by soft furnishings in the interests of safety.

(Ridiculous side point – are you familiar with the song ‘Bad Medicine’ by Bon Jovi? Well, I’ve had ‘Bad Feminist’ in my head to that tune since approx. March when I read it. And now you have it too.)

Are you there, God? Its me, Margaret5. Are You There, God? It’s Me Margaret – by Judy Blume

I’d been feeling a bit out of the loop, Judy Blume wise. People always talk about this book like it was something everybody read when they were growing up, but somehow it never found its way to me so I thought I’d read it now. It doesn’t matter how old I get, I will always find what girls go through when they’re growing up – the first period! The constant broken and rebuilt friendships! The boys! – amusing and heart-wrenching in equal measure. This was a welcome trip down memory lane, a reminder that I’d definitely rather be an adult, and that I’ll try and hold on to what that time felt like so that, if I have a daughter or a niece, I can offer the support, sympathy and the promise that THIS WILL END that they need.

6. The Goldfinch – by Donna Tartt

You know when you’re presented with a huge plate of food and you feel so overwhelmed that you think “I can’t eat any of that. I need to go and lie down” – that’s a bit like how I felt with The Goldfinch. When you don’t read a lot of fiction and then you decide to take on a book with over 800 pages, you can wonder if you’re going to be able to handle it. But everybody was talking about The Goldfinch and I wanted to see what all the fuss was about, and I’m glad I did. Whilst I agree with those who said that it could have lost 100 pages and still been just as good, I still think it was excellent. For me, reading this was a bit like reading To Kill A Mockingbird – not because the stories are alike, but because I really missed the characters when their stories were over, and their images have stayed with me ever since.

20160521_1710207. One More Thing – by B. J. Novak

This collection of short stories blew my mind. I don’t even really know how to describe them – they’re just so original, often really funny, and always so exciting to read; you never know what the next one is going to be about. One minute it’s a retelling of The Hare and the Tortoise, and the next it’s a bizarre and hilarious tale about the inventor of the calendar. I’ve given this book to my older brother now because it’s one of those that you just feel the need to force onto other people and say “You must read this so that I can talk to you about it.”

8. The Girl on the Train – by Paula Hawkins

Sometimes you need a book you can just whip through, gripped on every page, desperate to know who did it. This gave me that hit. I read it in the bath until the water got cold and then passed it on, satisfied that I now knew what everyone was talking about. For some reason, the pages of my edition had red edges, which looked like they’d been dipped in blood, and added an extra level of drama to the whole experience.

Why not me? Mindy Kaling9. Why Not Me? – by Mindy Kaling

I loved ‘Is Everyone Hanging Out Without Me? (And Other Concerns)’, Mindy Kaling’s first book and was super excited when the second one came out. Having watched every single episode of The Office U.S, Mindy’s voice is so familiar that I felt like she was reading each page to me personally, which was nice. This is another collection of essays offering life advice, stories so funny they’ll make you spit out your milkshake (or other chosen beverage), and enough inspiration to make you think YES, I can and I WILL do what I want to do with my life. Mindy, you’re my hero.

img_772210. Shrill: Notes from a Loud Woman – by Lindy West

I first heard Lindy West on a brilliant episode of This American Life called ‘If you don’t have anything nice to say, SAY IT ALL IN CAPS’. It’s about Internet trolling and features a fascinating conversation between Lindy and a man who pretended to be her father (who had recently passed away) in order to write incredibly nasty things to and about her online.

This book is a collection of insights into all the things that have helped Lindy find her voice, and accept herself for who she is. Shrill changed the way I think about weight, it made me want to work harder to be confident and speak up for myself, and it made me laugh out loud on numerous occasions. The delight I feel when I discover another amazing writer I can learn from and share with other readers is one of my very favourite things about being alive. Read this please and then ring me so that we can talk about it.

img_773411. The Opposite of Loneliness – by Marina Keegan

Marina Keegan was an incredibly talented writer who tragically died in a car accident just five days after she graduated from Yale. This book brings together a collection of her fiction and non-fiction work, including the title essay which went viral. There’s a huge range of stuff in here, from pieces on relationships and the highs and lows of growing up, to thoughts on how we can all have a positive impact on the world. It’s one of those books that you see all the time on ‘must read’ lists and ‘don’t miss’ piles in bookshops and now I know why.

the-girl-with-the-lower-back-tattoo-amy-schumer12. The Girl With The Lower Back Tattoo – by Amy Schumer

My husband bought me this book for our wedding anniversary. Regular blog readers will know that our ‘romantic’ trip away to celebrate three years of marriage didn’t quite go as planned, but the one good part of recovering from food poisoning is the opportunity it gives you to read. I wasn’t quite sure what to expect from this book – would it be laughs throughout? Or would I get to find out a little bit more about the woman behind the stand-up?

The Girl with the Lower Back Tattoo is so beautifully warm and full of love – for Amy’s friends, her family, her job, and for herself, which is really inspiring. The best books are the ones that double up as pep talks, so this is going on my shelf alongside Amy Poehler’s Yes Please and Tina Fey’s Bossy Pants, and all my other favourite females for when I need a kick in the right direction.

img_770213. Animal: The Autobiography of a Female Body – by Sara Pascoe 

This book was the education I didn’t even know I needed. The eye opening I will never recover from. The book I want to talk about most at parties but I don’t have enough post-it notes to mark up all the bits I need to refer to. Animal taught me more about my own body and mind than anything else ever has. I feel strongly that if every man and woman were to read this book, our interactions would be so much easier. It’s an investigation into all the forces that make us the way we are. I don’t just want you to read it, I NEED you to.

(See Adam Buxton’s podcast for an excellent chat with Sara Pascoe about this book too).

14. The Glorious Heresies – by Lisa McInerney 

One of the few pieces of fiction on this list, I was inspired to read this book after hearing Lisa speak on a panel at the Emerald Street Literary Festival in June after she’d won the Baileys Women’s Prize for Fiction. (I shared the marvellous writing tips I picked up from Lisa and the rest of the panel in this blog.)

Set in Cork, Ireland, this is what you’d call a gritty read and has everything you’d expect from such a thing – drugs, alcohol, prostitution, murder, religion, love and loss. It’s so descriptive that it’s like you can smell the blood, feel the damp air on your skin, see people’s lives crumbling apart in your hands. This was a new type of book for me and I liked it.

img_772915. I Feel Bad About My Neck And Other Thoughts On Being A Woman – by Nora Ephron

Can you believe I hadn’t seen When Harry Met Sally OR Sleepless in Seattle until this year? I know! And so began my (better late than never) relationship with the work of Nora Ephron. This book is a collection of essays – as you’d expect from the title – about being a woman. I particularly enjoyed the chapter about the various types of ‘maintenance’ women are required to do to their hair, skin, nails and how the time you need to spend on it only goes up as you get older. It made me laugh (and weep at the thought of how many hours I’m going to lose to this BS). I also loved reading about her love affair with her New York apartment, with cabbage strudel, and with an unconventional handbag. Welcome to the list of female writers I will harp on about forever, Nora E.

img_773216.  Moranifesto – by Caitlin Moran

This is a bit of a cheat addition because I’m actually still reading this book – but ’16 books read in 2016′ just felt so neat that I let myself add it to the list. I always enjoy a Caitlin Moran book – so much so that I’ve been to see her read twice, including on International Women’s Day where she shared some excellent life advice which I wrote about afterwards. Moranifesto is a collection of her most recent columns, as well as some new material. It covers a range of subjects – from Tom Jones to The Apprentice to Twitter – but it’s also a call for change. For us to stop shouting at each other over the Internet and to, instead, take it upon ourselves to help make things better. To not fear politics because we’re not ‘expert’ but to get involved because it affects everyone and everything. It feels particularly important to be reading this at the moment, so I shall continue!

Got any books you’d like to recommend? Please tell me, I cannot get enough.

Posted in: ON BOOKS Tagged: amy schumer, book recommendations, books, caitlin moran, Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, feminism, fiction, jon ronson, judy blume, lindy west, marina keegan, mindy kaling, non-fiction, nora ephron, reading, sara pascoe

Body image: Be careful with your words

13/03/2016 by Charlotte 4 Comments

20151112_101751After a week of activities celebrating all things International Women’s Day, one issue has stood out for me above all the rest.

Now this is a tricky statement – there’s a lot of stuff we need to put right, a lot standing between us and equality – and I’m not saying one thing matters more than another. I’m just saying that one topic that kept arising over and over again has really stuck in my mind and made me want to do something about it.

And that is: body image.

I went to see Caitlin Moran on Tuesday night (and wrote about it afterwards). I went to a brilliant event for UCL Women’s Day on Wednesday called ‘What’s funny about Everyday Sexism?’ and heard from the very funny and very wise Cally Beaton, Luisa Omielan and Laura Bates. And then this weekend I’ve been to more of the Women of the World Festival (WOW) at the Southbank Centre. (Yes I am quite tired now.)

And every single time, body image came up in a big way.

The way women and girls see themselves.

The inability so many of us have to just accept a compliment.

The level to which we – from a frighteningly young age – want to change the way we look, lose weight, be ‘prettier’.

The perception that ‘pretty’ means ‘successful’.

The terrifying damage that feeling we don’t look ‘right’ can do to our minds, our lives, our bodies.

The relentless apologising we do for our legs, our stomachs, our flesh.

The words so many of us use to describe ourselves – always caveated, mocking, self-deprecating.

The need for all of this to stop.

There are two short videos that you should watch on this subject:

At WOW, Radio 1 DJ and all-round excellent female Gemma Cairney showed a film she made for the festival last year. She’d been around the country speaking to young girls about the issues affecting them. It broke my heart.

Stand-up comedian Luisa Omielan does an amazing routine about the ridiculous way women speak about their bodies and why it needs to change. This woman is hilarious, wise as hell AND on YouTube.

We all know this is a big issue but it’s only when you see it on this scale, on this kind of stage that we realise how widespread it is and how urgently we need to make a change.

20160227_160954I’ve written before about my own inability to take a compliment without making a joke. This remains a struggle. Partly because I enjoy making bad jokes more than I should, and partly because I’m genuinely just too embarrassed to say “Thank you. I chose this outfit/hair cut/pair of gold polka dot brogues on purpose and I stand by that decision.” After this week, I am going to get better at this.

Because not only is it important for my own happiness, confidence, and basic good manners, it’s important for all of us. We need to be careful with our words. The more we hear people putting themselves down, the more we think that’s what we all have to do, that it’s the polite way to speak about our bodies.

The more we stand in front of the mirror next to a friend saying ‘OH MY GOD I LOOK LIKE AN ACTUAL BAG OF RUBBISH. I SHOULDN’T BE ALLOWED OUTSIDE!’ the more they’re going to respond with ‘YOU LOOK LIKE RUBBISH? I LOOK LIKE A BANANA THAT’S BEEN TRAVELLING AROUND IN SOMEONE’S HANDBAG FOR A WEEK – JUST A MESS!’

Seriously, why is this a thing?

There is much to be done about what other people expect from women in terms of our appearance – about the way we’re represented, about what we’re all taught about how women and girls supposedly should look.

But starting with the way we talk about our own bodies and those of our friends and peers is most definitely a good place to start.

Because if we all stop saying the bad things, eventually we’ll stop hearing them.

And if we all stop hearing them, then perhaps we’ll stop believing them.

And if we all stop believing them, the better prepared we’ll be to take on anyone who dares suggest that we should be anything other than just the way we are.

Posted in: ON CONFIDENCE Tagged: #wowldn, body image, caitlin moran, comedy, compliments, confidence, equality, everyday sexism, feminism, international women's day, IWD2016, luisa omielan, southbank centre, women, Women of the World Festival

Life lessons from Bridget Christie: Write about the things you care about

10/02/2016 by Charlotte Leave a Comment

20160207_121956-1-1I’m a huge fan of Bridget Christie. I wrote in my 2015 round-up that her book A Book For Her was the best thing I read last year, and I think it’s actually one of the best things I’ve ever read. It’s very funny and it taught me a lot about feminism. I devoured it like one might a bag of crisps after a long walk. I just couldn’t get enough.

As I said in one of my last posts (about what Tina Fey’s book Bossypants taught me about how she and Amy Poehler avoid worrying about what other people think), it means so much to have role models who talk about how they have found a way to get to where they want to be. I’ve reached a stage in my life where I can’t get enough of hearing how other people do it. Strange, isn’t it, how when we no longer have to learn, we suddenly want to do as much learning as possible.

Bridget Christie has been on the comedy circuit for years. She used to, as she puts it, dress up ‘as dead kings and insects and plagues and fire and things like that’. Then, just when she was thinking about giving up on the whole comedy thing, she decided, for her final hurrah, to write a show about a topic she’s genuinely interested in: feminism. And, much to her surprise, it changed everything. She won the 2013 Foster’s Edinburgh Comedy Award for her show A Bic For Her and the rest, as they say, is history.

I went to see her most recent stand-up show – also called A Book For Her – at the weekend and it reminded me of what following her success has taught me.

This is a woman who has done really well because she’s extremely talented and hilarious, but also because she had the guts to write and to talk about what matters to her (and what should matter to everyone).

20160206_115021We’re all better at our work when we focus on something that interests us. It’s obvious – the more we care about something, the more of ourselves we’re going to put into it. And the more of our heart we put in, the better we’ll be at encouraging other people to be interested in it too.

As I talked about not so long ago, I’m starting out as a freelance writer. I am trying to make my way in a sector which is already seriously oversubscribed and I find it extremely overwhelming. Wednesdays are my assigned writing days (although I obviously do it more frequently than that and think about it ALL the time) and I have regular dips where I wonder what on earth I think I’m doing, who I think I am, and why I’m even bothering because CLEARLY THERE ISN’T ROOM FOR ME.

Now, this voice is not to be listened to – it’s just the sound of imposter syndrome which most of us experience every day one way or another. So to try and avoid it, when I’m struggling to know where to put myself, I go back to my list of things that I am most interested in. The things that I like writing about, that I know about, and where I really have something to offer. And from there, well, the ideas gradually start to come. It’s very much a work in progress, but it’s a starting point, and we all need one of those.

Of course, it’s not possible to just work on things you’re most interested in all the time – girl gotta get paid, yo. You also need to keep an open mind because you never know which new things you come across might make it onto your list. I’ve found myself writing about topics which I might not have previously thought would be my bag that have then turned out to be something I’ve loved looking into.

But when things are quiet on the work front, or when you have some spare time, it’s good to do a bit of writing just for the love of it about whatever it is that you want to talk about. Because that way is sure to lie some of your best work and you just never know where it might take you.

Who knows it could be an award winning stand-up show or an amazing book. Or it could just be a blog post that your mum is kind enough to read. Either way, you’re bound to have some of your happiest hours just getting it onto the page.

I’m always looking for my next source of inspiration to join Bridget, Amy and Tina (sure, we’re on first-name terms) on my list of go-to people for a spot of reassurance that even the very best of writers have their struggles. So if there’s anybody whose words and tales you find particularly helpful, please leave me a comment/send me a tweet/carrier pigeon and let me know.  

Posted in: ON CONFIDENCE, ON WRITING Tagged: A Book for Her, Bridget Christie, comedy, Edinburgh, feminism, freelancing, inspiration, stand-up, women, writing

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